Online relationships, in my estimation, should come with a HUGE caution flag! Watch out, liars fool folks.
Down through the years, our nation’s news outlets have carried stories about predators using the internet to lure people into traps of varying kinds. Sometimes, the traps are financial in nature with people running con games on folks to get their money! Other times, people have been lured to a rendezvous that resulted in their murder. The anonymity of the web makes it all to easy for people to misrepresent themselves to others and lead them astray!
I Know, I know! There are also plenty of stories about people who have met their spouses online and successfully moved the relationship from stranger to partner. i am simply urging caution, thinking about the old cliche that caution is the better part of valor. Match.com has a list of safety tips when it comes to online dating and relationships. You can check them out here.
Some other things to check out!
We all know that there is no risk free way to meet people and the wolves in sheep’s clothing can be living right next door as well as lurking behind the pages of an internet site. So what are some things you should be aware of in getting to know potential love partners on line or off?.
- Do not be in a rush! Take your time in getting to know the person you are interested in.
- Ask a lot of background information questions about the person’s life interest. Be listening carefully and make mental notes about the important areas of work, family, and love histories. It is difficult for a person to create a fabric of lies about themselves that stand the test of time. Sooner or later, they contradict themselves and a red flag should go up signalling the need to check out any inconsistency you note.
- Explore the person’s values. What do they believe in and what prompted those beliefs? What is their philosophy about life. Notice any discrepancies between their stated beliefs and their actions
- Pay attention to the person’s friendship networks. Are the folks you learn about people of good character? Ancient wisdom says that bad companions do corrupt good morals. If the people your prospective friend/lover hangs out with trigger anxiety and disapproval in you, be careful about the person choosing those kind of folks to be around.
So, when it comes to creating new friendships, a simple motto would be, “Whether in doubt or not, check’em out!!”