Best Relationship Advice? Improve Your Self Image

Here is your best relationship advice!  Improve your self image!   People who have a history of discouraging relationships often suffer from a poor self image. I want to take this opportunity to introduce you to a man who died in 1989 after a long and successful career as an author and public speaker.  Earl Nightingale wrote and spoke about  the importance of self image, self esteem, and positive self regard.. His books and speeches were always based on sound psychological  principles as you will see in the video/audio clip cited below.

If you want to attract and hold great quality people into your life and you don’t think you can do it,, then you will fall victim to that self fulfilling prophecy. The good news is, we have the power and ability to change our self image/assessment and come to believe in the person we have always wanted to be!

Here is a quick, six minute audio file on this all important subject that Nightingale recorded decades ago.  Since it is dealing with human nature,, the content is timeless. Click here and enjoy! (Please forgive the Youtube ad ahead of the video.)

Another aspect of your self image in your people skills.  Most of us operate with what we have gleaned along the way without getting any formal training teaching us how to expand our ability to win friends or influence others. This ironic because there is nothing so vital to people’s success as having great people skills.

Many years ago I was blessed with the opportunity to go through a Dale Carnegie course dealing with the material taught in the book How to Win Friends and Influence People.  It was a game changer for the people there and for myself as well. It is my opinion that this book or its updated version should be required training in school for our children AND our teachers!

The book is filled with practical wisdom for improving our personal relationship abilities and the application works in personal life as well as at work.  If you are interested, click here to check it out on Amazon.

Developing your social skills will improve your self image as you increase the confidence you feel in all social situations that require meeting new people.  It will also impact on how you interact with current friends and family. As a licensed social worker, I have called on the skills I learned through this material countless times to enable me to have a more positive impact on those I live and work with.


  1. Self confidence is a good thing to have in any aspect of your life. But I agree with you, if your self image isn’t very good then you are probably drawing the wrong types of people to yourself.

  2. That’s so funny that I happened across your site. I listen to a lot of things similar to what Earl is talking about and it is very true! We all have “self-talk” and it’s up to you (and me!) to recognize what exactly we are saying to ourselves constantly throughout the day and choose to make it positive rather than negative. I enjoyed the listen! 🙂

  3. If I was to look back at some of the relationships I had (or attempted to have) when I was not feeling at my best, the relationships didn’t go anywhere. I’m glad those days are gone! Really good information on the importance of self-image in relationships.

  4. You’re right about self-image. We need to have a certain level of confidence and self-esteem to attract ‘quality’ people into our life. Thanks for sharing!

  5. Hi Byron, I agree about the importance of a good self image. Most humans have a tendency to “talk” very harsly to ourselves and be quite cruel. I think it is important to be kind to yourself and lift up the positive parts more. If you know how to treat yourself nicely, then it will be easier to treat others the same way. It will give a domino effect, and then you will attract the right people automatically.
    Marika

  6. Great advice. Being positive is very important. If you want someone to love you I think that we need to love ourselves first.
    Thanks for the post.

  7. Excellent information on self image. I agree with you that a positive self image should be taught to all school children at an early age.

    We all need to improve our self image in one way or another. Starting with doing away with imposing limitations on ourselves.

    1. I know the feeling. Relationship and self image skills should be taught in high school and college in my opinion.
      Thanks for the feedback!

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