WATCH OUT, GENERALIZATIONS FOOL FOLKS
Advice for the love lorn is as diverse as humanity itself. When someone advertises under the title “best relationship advice for women” they are demonstrating grandiosity! While all women are similar to each other in many aspects intrinsic to their sex, they are also different in regard to their personalities. Some are extroverted, some not. Some are funny, some are meloncholy. Some like displays of affection, some don’t! Well, you get the picture!
CHOOSE YOUR ADVICE GIVERS CAREFULLY
Not all advisers are created equal. Before you ask somebody for advice, consider that person’s background. Are they qualified to give advice that is sound on the topic you are going to bring up. The Carpenter from Nazareth told people to judge a tree by the fruit it produces. In other words, If you are going to ask somebody for advice, is there evidence that what they know how to do works?
OPPOSITES GIVE ADVICE OUT OF THEIR UNDERSTANDING, NOT YOURS!
A good friend of yours may be fun to be around because they are so different from you. What works for them in relationships may not fit you at all. Seek counsel from someone who is similar to you in tastes, energy level and attitudes who has successfully created the type of relationships you are looking to create.
WHEN YOU LISTEN TO OTHER VOICES, YOU CAN MISS YOUR OWN
After you get counsel, be sure to spend some time thinking about it. It may be wonderful advice, it may not be because some aspects of your own nature interfere with it. You may, after considering the advice given to you, decide to use some of what has been suggested instead of all of the idea. Also, when considering the use of a solution, be sure to ask yourself how it will affect all of your other relationships. Sometimes the law of unintended consequences kicks in and you solve one problem only to create 3 others in some important aspect of your life.
CONSIDER A COUNSELING PROFESSIONAL WHO PRACTICES WHAT THEY TEACH SUCCESSFULLY
If you are seeking advice for your marriage, it is my contention that the professional you hire for counsel is not only professionally trained but also happily married. It is a good thing to get ideas from somebody who has “walked their talk”, who teaches not simply from their book wisdom but also from their own experiential wisdom. As a professional marriage counselor, I inform my clients of my professional training and of my long term and blessed marriage. My credentials are personal as well as professional. The combination of the two is effective for discussing the principles of sound relationship building. My bias is, the counselor you choose should have both forms of experience when it comes to what they teach.